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So my latest challenge …………… get ready cause here it comes. So as you all know my involvement with youth has been a while now, but God has challenged me with my own children just so I can be a little more humble and understanding to others. Don’t get me wrong I fight with the Lord and ask him why this happens but the same answer comes back, I won’t give you something you won’t handle.

Now that funny cause I really did not think I could handle this and threw a little tantrum with him but that did not really help. But today I am feeling better.

So here it is my daughter was recently diagnosed with ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) and borderline personality disorder. Now up until last week I had no idea what this was. I really thought difficult teens were all the same as my child but unfortunately they are not. ODD and BPD both come with some nasty side affects. I really would like imput from any moms or dads out there who have kids with these disorders to hear what they have done.

So to start from the beginning it started with lies. Lies boys and girls will get you into lots of trouble. But if you do it enough it could actually get your mom and dad to turn around and do something about it. Now apparently ODD can be genetic as I was told and since Carla is adopted we are not too sure.

I received a strange call from the principle of the school last week telling me my child was telling some horrific lies at school. But for my child she lives her lies. ODD is when there problem starts affecting their daily function, as my child really believes she saw a dead body in a “imaginary” friends house and that’s why she missed school. She also started cutting herself (which by the way is a taught thing) She would have had to see someone do it before she did it.

She smokes (and according to the therapist my hands are tied) I told her my rules are: I will not buy it, pay for it or want to smell it or see her smoke near me, her answer was: “Well where can I smoke then?” I quite over a year ago for my kids (funny is it not how life is) she swears like a sailor and is dating a 16 year old boy behind our backs. She is manipulative and will make you believe things you never thought possible. She has what they call Blunt emotions so don’t be fooled by any tears She feels nothing really no guilt no shame. Best scenario she gets therapy and controls her compulsive lying and everything else worst scenario she goes to girl’s town.

I am broken……………

This is my baby I have raised her since she was 5 and now when I stand in front of her she is a grown woman at 12. Who still makes 12 year old decisions. And needs her mom. I love her though and will do anything to help her even if it means girls town.

But I see light……………….dim but its there. It WILL bring us closer whatever it takes.

So for those who have some advice I would love to hear from you. For those who pray that would be awesome. And for those who are going through the same thing drop us a line I would love to chat.

WILL THE REAL YIDDY PLEASE STAND UP.?

Hi all it’s been so long that I feel I have let some of my friends down. So much has happened that one really does not know where to start, so I have decided to leave out all my past and just catch up on the latest stuff.

I recently had the pleasure of dining with two friends one very close friend and the other one I saw last in std 5 (Grd 7) and just catching up on what happened in the last 19 years shew I did sound a little like a real wild child.

However the impression that was left of me with this friend was one of total rebellion YES I jolled (partied) as did most of us. I also fell pregnant before I was married. I did drugs I drank it was all so high and the moment thing. And my life to my friends was wild but never an exciting moment.

However there is always another side to people. I had my fair share of problems and crazy moments. But that is not who I am now. Yes I can still have fun but I have changed. This old friend of mine made a statement that she would never leave her teens with me ever. How sad that she did not know that actually I have been involved with the youth ministry for almost 10 years now. And have recently started studying for my degree in youth pastor. My life is challenged daily but with such a powerful God I overcome each thing with his strength.

Now having been that crazy person before has helped me to be able to council and witness to many young teens who are desperate to be understood.

Its great how I can sit now and without shame tell you how awesome God has been in my life, I realise I just lost half my bloggers but I really don’t mind. Those who need to hear will, my life story is fascinating if you know where I have been and where God has carried me. I will share with you all as I am ready.

My latest victory in Christ was one of my bestest friends came to visit from the UK. I have known Lesley since I was seven years old, I think that pretty much sums that up anyway her family is mine and recently her father fell very ill after struggling with a long term illness. It was a honour when she allowed me to pray and witness to him. Now by the time I saw her father he could no longer speak but managed to say Thank You. WOW he heard and I knew it would be okay. When he went I knew it was to a better place.


So to all of you out there. If you bump into a long lost friend, be careful who you are judging things are not always what they seem.

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